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A small number of clients. Introductions made by hand.

couples

Introductions that became something

All couples

The fourth introduction

Together three years

The first three were wrong, and each one was wrong usefully.

  • Across two continents

    Married, and relocated twice

  • The one we asked to wait

    Four years, and he has since sent us two friends

  • Two people who hated apps

    Engaged, eighteen months on

Who we work with

We are not for everybody, and that is the point

  1. 01

    People who are genuinely ready

    Not "open to it". Ready — out of the last thing, clear about what they want, and with room in their life for somebody. We ask directly and we can usually tell.

  2. 02

    People who are interesting on a Tuesday

    Achievement is not what makes somebody good to be around. We look for curiosity, humour and the ability to be still. Our clients tend to have accomplished a great deal and to lead with none of it.

  3. 03

    People who will take our advice

    The introductions that work are frequently not the ones a client would have chosen from a photograph. Working with us means being willing to be surprised.

  4. 04

    People who are kind

    We have declined clients for this reason and we would again. Everybody we introduce is somebody else’s introduction too.

Enquire

Start with a conversation

Forty minutes, confidential, and an honest answer about whether we are the right people for you.