Privacy & Safety
Who can see a profile, who can see a photograph, and who can see a telephone number.
Your privacy, in plain terms
Your profile is visible to signed-in members only unless you change it. Your photographs carry their own setting. Your telephone number and email address are never shown to anybody you have not accepted an interest from, and never at all on a free membership. Your date of birth is not shown to anybody — only the age computed from it, and only if you leave that switched on. You can hide your profile from the register without losing your connections, and you can delete it entirely at any time.
Trust
Your information, and who can see it
Your profile is visible to signed-in members only unless you change it. Your photographs carry their own setting.
Photographs are members-only by default
A new profile’s photographs are visible to signed-in members, never to the open web. You can narrow that to connections only, or open it, at any time.
Your telephone number is not on your profile
It is held, and released only to somebody you have accepted an interest from — and only on a membership that includes contact details.
Your date of birth never leaves our servers
We hold it to compute your age and to enforce a minimum. What anybody else sees is a number, and you can switch even that off.
We do not sell anything to anybody
No data broker, no advertising network, no "partner offers". The membership fee is the business model.
Verification is done by a person
An identity document, checked against the profile, by a member of our team. It takes two working days and it is free.
You can take yourself off at any time
One switch hides your profile from the register while keeping your connections. Another deletes it entirely.
The questions everybody has
Yes, and it is normal — about half of the profiles here are created by a parent or a sibling. The profile says who created it, so the person reading it always knows who they are corresponding with.
Register free
A marriage is worth taking seriously.
Create a profile in fifteen minutes. Nothing is visible until you say so, and nothing is shared with anybody you have not accepted.
